About Me
Hey! I’m Jennifer
I help Black women heal their generational Mother Wound so they can stop being so damn strong and start accessing the transformative power of vulnerability and tenderness.
Yes ma’am, vulnerability and tenderness. You heard me right.
I help busy-bee, ambitious, johnny on the spot, always there for everyone else, I don’t need nobody cuz I can do it all by myself strong Black women like you feel safe enough to lay down your sword and shield so you can finally relax, exhale and be soft.
It took me so very long to understand that the voice in my head telling me I wasn’t good enough wasn’t my own voice but the voice of a mother who never knew had access her own power and authority in her life. She grew up in a world that wasn’t safe and she made me believe I wasn’t safe in this world either.
Through watching her live out her own generational trauma, she taught me I had to guard my heart because no one would ever be there for me so I had to make due on my own. I learned the only way to be strong in this world was to prove myself, please others and make myself so small so I wouldn’t be a burden or nuisance.
My life, the choices I was making and how I saw the world as a dangerous place, were directly related to the relationship I had with my mother. That wouldn’t have been so bad if I wasn’t also homeless with my son at the time and sleeping on a cot in a church office.
My life, the choices I was making and how I saw the world as a dangerous place, were directly related to the relationship I had with my mother. That wouldn’t have been so bad if I wasn’t also homeless with my son at the time and sleeping on a cot in a church office.
“I didn’t believe I had anything to offer anyone. So being me had to be enough.”
Fast forward and two years later I wrote and published my first book (link) Fuck that Cape: The Grown Woman’s Unapologetic Guide to Putting Herself First. It’s a self-help book and vulnerable tell-all account and of my life and healing journey. Yet again, vulnerability changed my life and opened so many doors for me as a speaker, facilitator and healing guide. My healing community blossomed because I shared my stories…and some of them were not pretty.
I was always trying to avoid abandonment and rejection so I tried to be who people thought I should be. But in the end I always ended up feeling abandoned and rejected. You know why? Because I was abandoning and rejecting myself! I realized it was never about having healthy relationships with other people to make me happy. It was me having a healthy relationship with MYSELF so I could b happy. I’ll forever be grateful for that my book taught me this priceless lesson.
I never EVER want anyone to experience the agony of a mother wound. That’s why I’m deeply committed to this work.
When you grow up not feeling “seen” by your mother and she doesn’t teach you that you have autonomy and authority over your life, you’re like an orphan wandering the streets. You have no real home.
I’m determined to be a part of breaking this generational trauma cycle for Black women.
Healing my mother wound was like coming home…to myself. You know that feeling when you walk in the front door from a long day at work and you kick off your heels and reach behind you and unhook your bra? Now imagine not having to put those heels or bra back on ever again.
Being strong is played out. We’re healing and embracing our natural vulnerability and tenderness around here.I hope you join me!